You guys: I totally had a celebrity encounter! Technically, there were two since he hit on me twice, but we’ll get to that in a bit. I had a real-live, honest-to-goodness Master Pick-Up Artist™ run game on little ol’ me!
Some of you might be wondering what, pray tell, a PUA is. Have no fear, I’m here for all your weird dating terminology needs. A PUA is a guy who utilizes specific tools and techniques to pick up, seduce, and sleep with women. There’s a whole community, with more experienced guys teaching down on their luck types how to manipulate women into sleeping with them. A journalist-turned-pick-up-artist wrote a book about it (which I’ve read and will reference later), VH1 dedicated a show to one of the more recent gurus, and the community has birthed some really gross websites with hilariously awful ideas about women and relationships.
Now, this is not the first time I’ve encountered a PUA bro. One of the most common ‘techniques’ I’ve encountered is the neg. For those of you unfamiliar with the concept, the basic idea is that women are used to being complimented by guys. If you say something subtly negative, it throws her off balance and she’ll be ripe for the picking.
The problem is it’s terribly overused and it’s extremely transparent. Par exemple, I had this exchange with a wannabe PUA:
Dudebro: Hey, do you ever wear contacts?
Me: No, I prefer glasses.
Dudebro: Yeah, I guess you’re still cute with them.
Me: Dude. No. This does not work when we know what you’re doing.
That guy’s game was weak at best. This more recent interaction took it to another level. His initial message invited me to check out his profile and let him know if I was interested in men ‘a bit more masculine, take charge, decisive and emotionally mature,’ which immediately piqued my interest — and not in an ‘I want to date that caveman’ way. I’ve been reading The Game, and his verbiage sounded disconcertingly familiar. It was too good an opportunity to pass up.
His profile was the definition of TL;DR. Since I like you, here are some highlights (emphasis mine):
I would consider myself as a “throwback” to the masculine male archetype that existed before men became emasculated due to certain societal factors. What this means is that I don’t make apologies for being a man, for what I want, for my desires, my beliefs, for my hunter-gatherer instincts …
Secondly, I must say that I am on here, simply as another way to connect with someone. I have no issues with “cold” approaching, engaging and procuring relationships with people, women in the real world.
I honestly love Toronto but I find many in this city a bit socially backward for my taste.
There are actually 5 reasons why Torontonians are globally known to be a bit more socially odd than their counterparts in NYC, Chicago, LA, Paris and other global spots.
If you want to know why that is so, then request the article I wrote on the 5 factors.
I’m really good at:
Cold approach “closing” others on me, my ideas and my vision.You should message me if:You are curvy, into health/fitness, have a good outlook on life, love, people, the world, are emotionally mature, passionate, affectionate, selfless, giving, intelligent, come from a good upbringing, have integrity, class, are progressive minded, are very ambitious, independent, career oriented but still do value companionship and connection. Lastly, you do love your men a bit more on the masculine, decisive, emotionally mature side.
Push-pull — noun: a technique used to create or increase attraction, in which a man gives a woman indications the he is not interested in her followed by indications that he is. (The Game, Strauss, p. 445)